How is this IFI anonymous when I know who I sent it to?

When someone gets your IFI email, they will receive a link to a secured website. That link will take them to your personal IFI statements. Once they respond to your IFI, we will send you a message prompting you to log in to your account on our site where you can then review your results. You will be able to view your IFI results, but you will not be able to see how each individual person responded.

How does this Invite for Insight (IFI) Request work anyway?

How many people can I send an IFI to?

For a limited time, you can invite as many people as you like. We advise, however, to strongly consider who you invite to participate.  It is important to be sure that the individuals you invite to participate are those you trust, find their insight valuable, and will provide you with good, honest, and unbiased feedback.

How many statements can I add to my IFI?

For a limited time, you can add as many statements as you like.

What kinds of statements can I add to my IFI?

You can choose from our many statements, add your own, or both, to help you make your decision with the clarity you need. Keep your statements short, to the point, about you, your partner, and your future together. You must format your questions in the form of a statement so they will be answerable using a scale from “strongly disagree” to “strongly agree.”

You want to make sure your statements help and not confuse your decision. It is also important to note that, per our Terms of Use, you will not send anything lewd or inappropriate that contains foul language.  Shouldigetmarried.net is not responsible for your inappropriate actions.

How long will the results be available?

As long as you keep your account open with us.

Can I terminate my account at any time?


How do I create an account?

Click on the “Get started” button, then click on “Create an Account” and fill out the basic information requested.

I want to make sure my significant other doesn’t see the IFI. How can I assure he/she doesn’t see it?

Your account will be password protected to prevent anyone from seeing your information. Secure the password in a safe location.

Can I add more people to my IFI once I’ve already sent out invitations?

Your IFI will close when all of your participants have answered or the time that you have chosen to leave the IFI open has lapsed and at least 3 people have responded.
** Please note, the only instance where you’ll be able to add more people to your IFI, is in the event that at least 3 people have not responded in the time line you have chosen. In that case, we will send you an email and you will be able to add additional people to make sure you get the 3 minimum responses.

How long will the IFI remain open?

We give you the option of choosing 7, 14 or 21 days to keep your IFI open. We close the IFI, and you get the results when everyone has responded or once the time is up and at least 3 people have responded.
If less than 3 have responded at the end of your chosen timeline, we give you the option to add more people in order to meet that minimum.**
We give you the option of 7, 14 or 21 days because some clients ask quite a few people and you want to give them the appropriate time to respond thoughtfully. Some people may be out of town or miss the original email, so they may need a little extra time. Alternatively, you may be asking a small number of people that respond quickly because you let them know you’ve sent it or somehow know they won’t need extra time, so choose 7 days. It’s up to you.
The IFI will close when everyone has completed it, or when the time is up and at least 3 people have responded, whichever is sooner.

What if someone I send an IFI to doesn’t respond, say they are out of town or it goes to junk mail?

We will send out an email reminder to those that haven’t responded after a few days, depending on how long you choose to leave your IFI open.

What do you do with the email addresses we provide?

Protect them with our life. Seriously, we use them only to send your invitations for feedback. From our Terms of Use: “Each user’s list of such email addresses is stored on our system, but the email addresses in those lists are not used by shoudligetmarried.net in any other way. The emails sent on a user’s behalf appear to come from that user’s email address.

What happens to the IFI results?

From our Privacy Policy: Your IFI Statements, responses, and results are kept in strict confidence and used in compliance with legal requirements. We will never use your IFI Statements or responses other than in accordance with this privacy policy unless we have your consent, and then only anonymously.
You may be asked whether you wish to opt in to allowing us to use your IFI statements and/or responses in this way at the time of creating your account or your IFI. If you opt in, we may use the anonymous and aggregated IFI statements and/or responses to create data services or content.
You have the ability to export, share, or publish data from your IFI. We may also process your information, including your IFI statements and your respondents’ responses, as well as aggregated data we collect through IFI results to help you with your own IFI creation and analysis, and to help us provide and improve our overall IFI services.

Can I change the statements or add additional ones after the invitations have gone out?

We are currently not set up to alter your IFI once it’s gone out. We suggest make sure your statements completely reflect all that you want to know from your friends and/or family. Alternatively, you can always do the IFI again, once it is complete, to ask different or additional statements. Then you can add whomever you want to get even more feedback.

Can I cancel the IFI after I’ve purchased it?

Like sending an email, there is no way to unsend it.

Do you have a refund policy?

Our clients love our product, and we’re sure you will too. We promise to deliver everything necessary to ensure a successful experience. In addition to the initial IFI, we will send out reminder emails to any recipients who have not yet responded to your IFI, in specific intervals, in the instance an IFI email went unnoticed.

Due to the nature of our website and that our results are opinion based, we naturally cannot guarantee participation; therefore, we must instill a NO REFUND POLICY.

For this reason, we strongly encourage our visitors to acquaint themselves with our site and our service.
– Please read our Service page
– Please read our Terms of Use Policy

Our goal is to provide a valuable service to our clients. Because of this, please keep in mind that regardless of your results, the information you’ll gain in IFI participation is well worth the money spent.

Why do you require a minimum of three IFI participants to respond in order to view my results?

We are very concerned about protecting the anonymity of our clients and IFI participants. Our objective is to provide a platform of honesty for a purpose. This requires that the participants be assured their responses will remain anonymous. The more recipients, the greater likelihood of a variety of answers. We found three to be a good compromise, as many users typically invite three to six individuals to participate in their IFI.

Why anonymous?

Have you been in a situations where someone you love and care for asks you for some feedback or advice on something they really want to know the answer to? Did you end up telling them what you thought they wanted to hear instead of what you really wanted to say? If you’re like most of us, you’ve done that more than a few times. Why? Why do we do that? Did you feel bad, like you lost an opportunity to say what you really felt afterward? Could they have really used your honesty? Do you think it would of made a difference? If your friend or relative has asked you to participate in their IFI from our site, this is your opportunity. He or she is asking for help or insight – they value your perspective and they trust you to say what you feel. The premise behind shouldigetmarried.net is to provide a platform where one can learn the valuable, honest perceptions of those that our clients trust most. We work to protect the anonymity of the IFI respondent. We strongly believe that if participants are not confident that they can answer anonymously – and therefore honestly, it will impact their answers.