Should I Get Married? and Soulblock

March 29th, 2013

I don’t believe in any such thing as chance encounters. I firmly believe we meet everyone we’re supposed to meet, when we’re supposed to meet them, and for whatever the reason is, whether or not we know or understand it. I think all relationships work this way, not just intimate, or romantic ones, but all kinds; business partners, band-mates, friendships, etc. I love to think sometimes about what the reason might be for meeting some random person - the one that you just get a feeling... READ MORE

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Love Tattoo

March 24th, 2013

When I was married, my husband was a tattoo artist. He had one hard and fast rule about his tattooing; he'd never tattoo anyone's name on a person, unless it was their child's or their own. He was often asked why, and he certainly angered a few potential clients, but his answer was always, "Relationships don't last, and I'm not going to put someone's name permanently on your body only for you to have my artwork covered up or removed later on. Your name most likely won't change, and your... READ MORE

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Get Married – The Split is Easier if You Divorce

March 23rd, 2013

I get to read so much regarding marriage because of the work we do at - and I've heard it all; "Late marriage has it's consequences", "Getting married too early increases your chances of divorce, above the normal 50%", "Marriage is healthier for you than staying single" "More couples choosing to co-habitate versus getting married" "Children of divorced parents twice as likely to get divorced." - How is anyone supposed to know if getting married is the right thing to... READ MORE

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The Invite for Insight

March 18th, 2013

At a coffee shop in Portland, Oregon, this week, there was a conversation between three women and a friend of mine, Marielle, about the "Invite For Insight" from and her surprise to the reaction of one of these women. Two of the three women thought the Invite for Insight was a fantastic idea - a great way to get real opinions from people you love and trust, without any drama, arguments, or hurt feelings. The third woman however, said 'Whoa, I just got engaged,... READ MORE


Is Marriage Obsolete? Or Does it Need a Refacing?

March 4th, 2013

I was listening to the radio the other morning and the DJ's were talking about celebrity couples, and made a joke about Matt Damon and his wife being the odd couple, because they had gotten married first, then had kids, and several years in, still seem to be happy together - how weird is that? I started thinking about it, the divorce rate continuing to climb, and the marriage rate itself on the decline, and wondered if marriage is becoming a thing of that past? Are we not taking it as... READ MORE

Senior Mother Interferring With Couple Having Argument At Home

Are You Mothering Your Man?

February 28th, 2013

I've been seeing a lot of articles lately relating to women who become their mothers in their relationships, or who ultimately become a mother TO their boyfriends/husbands. I hate to say this, but I think I was guilty of this exact behavior, and it was possibly one of the many factors that led to my divorce. Years ago I wouldn't have admitted it, but I've been divorced a long time now and have a better view of both of our behaviors back then. I can see now that we were too young to... READ MORE

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Now You’re Moving In Together.

February 21st, 2013

Moving in together can be a make it or break it occasion. Make sure you've thought about & talked about all the little things regarding what it'll be like living together - things most people forget - not to mention all the usuals, money, combining finances, who pays what bills, who decorates... who gets the bigger closet - there are social issues that people tend to forget about, and I was recently reminded of just such a problem. A younger friend of mine just got an apartment with his... READ MORE

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So, Valentine’s Day Came… and Went.

February 20th, 2013

Alright, it's over. The big, super-hyped "lovers day" has been upon us, we survived, hopefully. What does it mean? Maybe you are now newly engaged because of a holiday proposal? Maybe you are as alone as you were last year at this time... If you're like me, perhaps you don't care one way or the other. What I find so interesting about Valentine's day is that the majority of people I know, work with, and talk to, all say they just don't care about it. "It's just a Hallmark Holiday" or "Why ... READ MORE

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Would You Listen if Your Friend Tells You it’s a Bad Idea?

February 5th, 2013

I came across a great post on not too long ago, and it just rang so true to what we do here at that I wanted to talk about it a little bit. The writer had asked if it was right that she tell her friend that she thinks her getting married is a big mistake. Most people in the thread agreed that she should not say anything because it was none of her business. I was appalled! How can preventing - or at least warning - a friend from making a... READ MORE

Le mariage 1900

Should We Bring Back Arranged Marriages?

January 25th, 2013

I used to be quite close with a group of people in the Brooklyn Hasidic Community. They are fascinating people. One of the things I found most interesting about their culture was that they, still today, believe in the practice of arranged marriages. Initially I balked at the idea, telling them that in today's society, there is simply no need for that ancient practice. It's just crazy. These poor folks, so backwards. How could one possibly find love and/or happiness in an individual that... READ MORE

Who Cares If You Get Married?

Who Cares If You Get Married?

July 1st, 2012

Working with has certainly opened my eyes to a much wider range of opinions on relationships, marriage, and divorce. There are certainly very good points brought up by everyone, in every situation. Most people, however, at some point in their lives, acknowledge that they want to, or that they will end up, getting married. Most of them hope it's only once. I've run the gamut myself. At one point in my life, I couldn't wait to be married. After I was divorced, I planned to never do it again. In... READ MORE

What If You Say “I Don’t”?

What If You Say “I Don’t”?

December 15th, 2011

Getting married is to be one of the most special days of your life. It's supposed to be forever, and many women dream of the day most of their lives. Everyone wants a fairytale, but it doesn’t always happen. Divorce is so commonplace that it's an issue that many people discuss, even when just considering marriage. Why has it become so acceptable to discuss the separation before the union? It seems to me that if the issue of divorce is this much in the forefront, perhaps the marriage should just not take place, at least... READ MORE