Right Person, Wrong Time?

Right Person, Wrong Time?

July 9th, 2013

Can there be a right person, just at the wrong time? I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason, and tend to think that, even in a situation of perceived "love at first encounter" that if things were truly meant to be, then they will be. I recently read an article about a woman convinced that her new relationship is the one. For sure. No doubt about it. Her partner says she feels the same way, but is about to take a new job that will absorb much of her time, and will have... READ MORE

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Should Your Spouse Be Your Best Friend?

June 26th, 2013

I've been asking the question a lot lately, 'Should your spouse be your best friend?' I'm asking mostly to just get answers, I don't have a necessarily profound viewpoint. When I was younger, and married, I thought that there had to be something fundamentally wrong with our relationship if we weren't each others best friend. There are a lot of interpretations of what a 'best friend' means, too, but when I say it, I really mean best friend. The one you confide in, the one who has your... READ MORE

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Separate Bedrooms??

June 19th, 2013

When they first told me about it I thought it was a very strange idea. Why would a happy monogamous couple not want to sleep in the same room? I thought maybe there was something wrong in the relationship that they were hiding from me. Not the case apparently. My son and his girlfriend of five years are, quite happily, living together, and love the fact that they each have their own bedrooms. They aren't alone, there seems to be a small, but growing population of couples doing the same... READ MORE

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Who Isn’t Getting Married?

May 13th, 2013

I read an article in the Philadelphia Inquirer about a new book that's out called, “Is Marriage for White People?” Apparently black women, according to this research, are the most un-partnered group in our society. Why? His answers are interesting, and make me think that perhaps black women are emerging as the lead in the “strong women” category. According to this research, more than 70% of black children are born to unwed parents. This alone might cause one to think poorly of this... READ MORE

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Would You do It Again?

May 3rd, 2013

I was talking today with an older guy that I work closely with. He is married, (not unhappily) I am not, and I've filled him in on much of my past relationships, marriage, etc., and in the past I'd mentioned that I don't think I'd marry again. I'm not opposed to another long term relationship if the time is right, but I really don't see myself getting married again. Don't get me wrong, it's left no bad taste in my mouth - I loved being married, hated getting divorced, I loved being engaged ... READ MORE

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May 3rd, 2013

I was talking today with an older guy that I work closely with. He is married, (not unhappily) I am not, and I've filled him in on much of my past relationships, marriage, etc., and in the past I'd mentioned that I don't think I'd marry again. I'm not opposed to another long term relationship if the time is right, but I really don't see myself getting married again. Don't get me wrong, it's left no bad taste in my mouth - I loved being married, hated getting divorced, I loved being engaged ... READ MORE

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Should You Stay or Should You Go?

April 26th, 2013

A fascinating article came across my desk the other day, regarding what makes women stay in a relationship that they know isn't right, or worse – marry when they know it's not going to work. They listed the top five reasons women gave for this behavior. It was particularly interesting because these reasons applied to many types of relationships, not just romantic ones. I think it's a natural behavior, not just for women. We all do it, I'm guilty myself, for me it wasn't in a romantic... READ MORE

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Would You Buy Your Own Engagement Ring? I Did.

April 21st, 2013

I read recently that more and more women are buying their own engagement rings. The reason was mostly because the women wanted the ring that they want, and aren't expecting their man to have to pony up that much cash just because they want something more than he might be able to afford. Not a bad idea, but it takes some of the magic out of the whole proposal thing a little. I know this because I, too, bought my own engagement ring - although not at all for the reason above. I'm not sure ... READ MORE

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Dude, Don’t Do It…

April 10th, 2013

I have a friend who works with a guy, and he just told me this story that I feel completely compelled to post here on our blog. This guy - let's say 'Chris' has been dating a co-worker for awhile now (I'm not entirely sure how long, doesn't matter). He is in love and decided he wanted to propose to her. Since they work together, he thought it would be cute if he proposed to her at work... Not something that I'd be interested in, but whatever, he wasn't proposing to me. He made it an... READ MORE

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Who Says You Have to Sleep With Your Spouse?

April 7th, 2013

I'm finding myself curious, about what seems to be a growing trend, of married couples who choose not to sleep together. (I don't mean sex, I just mean actually sleeping). I'd never known couples who don't sleep together, at least no one that does it simply because they prefer it - my grandparents had separate bedrooms, but that was because ones snoring always kept the other awake. A very close friend of mine, and his wife sleep separately, but it started out as just being respectful... READ MORE

Who Cares If You Get Married?

Who Cares If You Get Married?

July 1st, 2012

Working with shouldigetmarried.net has certainly opened my eyes to a much wider range of opinions on relationships, marriage, and divorce. There are certainly very good points brought up by everyone, in every situation. Most people, however, at some point in their lives, acknowledge that they want to, or that they will end up, getting married. Most of them hope it's only once. I've run the gamut myself. At one point in my life, I couldn't wait to be married. After I was divorced, I planned to never do it again. In... READ MORE

What If You Say “I Don’t”?

What If You Say “I Don’t”?

December 15th, 2011

Getting married is to be one of the most special days of your life. It's supposed to be forever, and many women dream of the day most of their lives. Everyone wants a fairytale, but it doesn’t always happen. Divorce is so commonplace that it's an issue that many people discuss, even when just considering marriage. Why has it become so acceptable to discuss the separation before the union? It seems to me that if the issue of divorce is this much in the forefront, perhaps the marriage should just not take place, at least... READ MORE